Proposition 8? What the Fuck is Wrong With Some of You?
My site is not a political blog but any stretch of the imagination. But I do need to ask:
Proposition 8? Really, California? Really?
How the fuck did Prop 8 get passed in California? California, the state where San Francisco, America’s gay Mecca, is located? Again, WHAT THE FUCK? Really?
First, here is some straight talk (pun intended):
It’s no secret that I am a recovering alcoholic/drug addict, who for years found pleasure in other people’s suffering. As miserable as I was, I found great satisfaction when others were miserable too. So when the subject of gay marriage was brought up, I would denounce it and make outrageous claims that gay marriage would lead to gay adoption and that this would in turn adversely affect the children of gay parents who did not have strong male and female role models. I know, it is fucked up, and to be honest, I did not necessarily feel this way. But it was something that I did say because I knew that it promoted intolerance and it satisfied my desire to be a raging prick. I am not proud of this, and while this particular crusade of mine was short-lived, I wish I could take that back.
But I certainly don’t feel like that now, and anyone who can honestly claim this sort of mentality as their own, is in my opinion, a bigot and an asshole.
I am neither a Republican nor a Democrat. Certainly, I have grown progressively more liberal in much of my thinking, but I still hold certain conservative viewpoints. One of these, however, is not the subject of gay marriage.
Not to sound like “that guy,” but some of my very closest friends and family members are gay. And sometimes I feel truly ashamed that, for a brief time period in my life, I dehumanized them by promoting the notion that their lifestyle did not warrant the same rights that I have and take advantage of.
So, now the election is over and everyone who voted for a Presidential candidate is either shouting happy things or angry things depending on their particular vote. But there is a lot to be pissed about. And by that, I am speaking about Prop 8.
Again, WHAT THE FUCK?! I can’t for the life of me think of any reasonable argument why two PEOPLE should not be allowed to get married. I am baffled by this whole “sanctity of marriage” and “traditional definition of marriage” shit.
To me, this matter is far more relevant than any racial equality issues we are facing in this country. I honestly believe that there needs to be a giant Gay Civil Rights Movement and a gay MLK-like figure. There needs to be a fucking upheaval, because this is just ridiculous. If there is, I haven’t heard of it. Then again it might be happening as I write this - I am a bit isolated from the outside world now.
Even when I was watching the Obama/McCain debates, both candidates announced their personal opposition to homosexual marriage. Why? How would that in any way affect anyone? I think we are all reasonable enough to understand that homosexuality is not contagious. If it were, my hometown of Fredericksburg, VA, a heavily homosexual region of the Mid-Atlantic, would not have a single straight person.
I know I am asking the same questions anyone else who is ashamed of Prop 8 passing would be asking, but it warrants repeating:
WHAT THE FUCK?
Seriously, I would love to know of any REASONABLE argument. Even if I don’t agree with it, I would still like to hear one. Is there one out there?
And now for my sophomoric ranting conclusion:
Fuck you and your ridiculous religion. Fuck you and your “traditional” ideals. Fuck you and your homophobia. Fuck all of you who vote for Prop 8 and for anyone who still supports the barring of gay rights. Fuck all of you, you fucking bigoted fucks. “But I voted for Obama!” Fuck you. You voted for a minority but possibly voted against another. You are still a bigoted asshole.
I will now return to my regularly scheduled programming…
- David C. Garcia
diana Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 12:32 pm
Obviously, we can’t have gay marriage… because things that we have had since biblical times must never, EVER, change.
I should be commenting on your stone tablet blog with my chisel like in Jesus’s day.
And besides, why do you care so much? Do you want to marry Rowdy or something?
Anna Two Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 12:38 pm
This is from my friend’s blog…she lives in Cali:
VOTE NO ON PROP 8!!! Of course, if you don’t live in Cali, then never mind. But seriously, claiming that gay marriage will cause children to become cannibals is pretty far fetched (you think I jest? These people are reaching for the most outlandish reasons why homosexuals should not have the same basic human rights as heterosexuals, NONE of which make any sense to anyone remotely believing in the power of logic).
She also went to a Bible-based high school, but clearly, she’s overcome that…
David C. Garcia Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 12:47 pm
Diana: I can’t marry Rowdy. I mean even if I wasn’t already married TO A WOMAN. Because if I married Rowdy then everyone else would start marrying their pets. It’s a contagious disease.
Anna: Your friend rules. What is her website?
kimba Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 12:55 pm
I am so mad at California right now, but I’m trying to regroup. Almost half of us voted against this monstrous pile of bigotry, and there are already legal challenges being thrown in its path (what about the 18,00 or so gays/lesbians who already got married? what about legislative approval? is it unconstitutional?) - hopefully there’s still hope.
I’m also pissed as hell at the influence the Catholic and Mormon churches had in this purely hateful turn of events. Strip them of their tax-exempt status if they’re gonna pull this kind of crap, I say.
What a downer after such a happy night on Tuesday.
Emily Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 12:59 pm
Great hissy fit, I mean rant. Call me cynical, but I think they both came out (!) against gay marriage not because that’s what they really stand for but because that was the answer that would lose the fewest votes.
Tina Thompson Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 1:08 pm
Love your site, I will check back for more info like this.
Heather Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 1:21 pm
This is truly the civil rights issue of our generation. Sign the petition online to re-open Prop 8:
http://www.petitiononline.com/seg5130/petition.html
For those whose hearts may sympathize, but who feel their faith does not allow them to support gay marriage, consider the arguments here:
http://www.soulforce.org/article/homosexuality-bible-gay-christian
Ryan Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 1:21 pm
Obama has said that he personally has no moral objection to gay marriage, but he has also said he in no way plans to make it legal. Unfortunately, that’s pretty much what he had to say if he wanted to become president. I think he’s more of an ally than McCain, but if change is going to happen, it’s got to be a movement from the ground up rather than the top down. Obama opposed the federal proposition to redefine marriage as between only a man and a woman, and he opposed proposition 8, but he’s not going to push for gay marriage unless the rest of America does as well. So, yeah, we do need an LGBT MLK.
Katherine Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 3:21 pm
David, a wonderful post as always. This may be naive, but I’m hoping the upcoming movie “Milk,” about San Fran’s first gay mayor, will help charge up emotions and inspire people. I think you are right; we do need a gay civil rights movement because this is a serious civil rights violation.
MonkeyGirl Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 4:32 pm
Too bad that people on the internet don’t really exist. I’m fairly certain that I could enjoy a beer or three with you.
David C. Garcia Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 5:25 pm
Kimba: I completely agree with your comment about the Mormons and the Catholics.
Emily: That’s what I do. I makes the hissy fits. Usually not politically because, well…ugh.
Tina Thompson: Based on the hyperlink to your site (since deleted), I am pretty sure you were actually a spam comment. If not, thank you. You have a very nice thing to say.
Heather: Amen to the whole civil rights movement of our generation. But FYI - that online petion is 1 - an online petition which essentially makes it impotent. 2 - If that petition was viable, only CA residents could sign it.
Ryan: You have like a million boners for Obama, don’t you?
Katherine: I heard about that movie. I wonder how it will be. Let me know.
MonkeyGirl: I totally do exist. That’s why I named my blog after me. I would normally say yes to having beers, but I’m a bit of an alkie. Can’t really drink the sauce anymore. Diet Coke or iced tea, though!
Comic Mom Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 6:52 pm
Thank you, David! I’m too stunned and depressed right now to feel angry. No, I’m not there yet, but your rant was great. Thanks for getting angry for me .. and for my partner. It’s really nice to feel like somebody gives a damn.
Nikki
Katherine Said,
November 6, 2008 @ 8:06 pm
Dear Comic Mom,
I absolutely do give a damn.
Sincerely,
Katherine
girlysmack Said,
November 7, 2008 @ 1:04 am
I don’t know why I am commenting, as I have nothing original to add to the discussion. Just that it is disgusting that people would create laws to suppress the rights of their fellow countrymen rather than grant them. And that I do not understand why people need to define marriage as strictly between one man and one woman when the bible tells of men with multiple wives so why not legalize polygamy while we’re at it. I think we should worship the Greek gods and goddesses who were all bisexual and lovin’ life. But that’s a tangent.
Like I said, nothing original.
And another thing. To protect the “sanctity of marriage” why not make marriage counseling free and accessible to any couple who needs it. Why not make getting married (even) more complicated? Why not pass an amendment banning divorce? Why not ban remarriage? Why not ban premarital sex? Or adultery? Throw all those fuckers (pardon the pun) in jail.
What happened to seperation of church and state?
Wait. Is this your blog? I’m sorry. Thought it was my own platform for a moment. It is 1 am. And I am not even original. But there you have it. My 50 cents.
Brandon J. Carr Said,
November 7, 2008 @ 10:20 am
A lot of us (far away from California, unfortunately) indeed give a damn. There’s some outrage here that’s growing…I’ve been talking to people all over the country about this. We’re all in agreement that this kind of regressive, back-water policy-making will not stand in the world of tomorrow.
Once the anger cloud dissipates a little, it’s time to start figuring out how to change the world. I will march and I will shout for justice and I will not be alone.
b
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